A , trust, and most of all, respect.
Basically, cheaters must make a commitment to living differently and abiding by certain boundaries, the most important of which is ongoing rigorous honesty about absolutely everything, all the time.
Better part ways than do this.
We had been together for about three years at this point, and were going through issues, her drinking was part of that, and these rules seemed like it could make a difference.
In fact, no one is ever ready to deal with a spouse who lied and cheated not just with you but your marriage and family.
Therapy helped him work through a lot of childhood grief, so that his own feelings are a lot more accessible to him.