A few years ago, I sat amongst a lovely group of church women whom I hardly knew and listened in as they engaged in the same kind of conversation almost every group of women have when they sit down to share a meal together: The fat talk. She cited Where Does the Good Go and Speak Slow as highlights. I treated the opposite sex only as brothers to appease the aggressively husband-hunting women who found me a threat to their chances of finding a partner. Live with people who make you happy and like you for who you are! Superiors love me but my friends, co-worker and coursemate complains that their work is always compared to mine and that automatically put them at a disadvantage. Alex I'm right with you on that. Instead of celebrating differences, this writing is dictating how to fit in with the popular girls.
May you always shine ever so brightly! I don't agree with some of the advice in this article. Without exaggeration, I have only to walk into a room of females and the hate can be cut with a knife. You can try to down-play your attractive features, but ultimately, you shouldn't have to hide your good qualities to assuage someone else's insecurities. There is a difference between feeling threatened and feeling intimidated. It is disgusting to tell women to downplay their looks, intelligence, ect.
Your advice is misguided and if I were you, I would be questioning my motives. They will tend to demotivate you. The rage I feel when it happens is too intense and I am afraid of my feelings. I even hid my ethnicity and natural passion when opposing concerns within the church because I was afraid of being labelled as the angry black woman in a white dominated space. The one who views every aspect of social interaction as a competition, and the one who will use your heart as a stepping stool to the top? Maybe you feel insecure that your acquaintance may seem to have more talents or social skills than you. I do not have to waste one irretrievable second with B.
In today's world, however, all ten attributes act as a force field. I seek out like minded, strong and kind women as friends. This advice is as best ridiculous, at worst, harmful. As someone who has unmeaningfully been the threatening woman pretty much all of my life I say enough is enough. They need therapy and everything else. And I am experiencing something similar now again. The big boss saw me as detached from the entry-levelers, highly polished, professional and talented.
He never mentions any friends and doesn't hang out with anyone but you. No matter what the reason, weight can affect how a person is treated. Spend time with people who care about you, like and respect you. Let's look at what is going on when you are jealous, and how you can handle it. He threatens to breakup with you. Finally, examine why you fel the need to compete -- that's really not friendship, which accepts difference and celebrates uniqueness. Some people will contribute to and participate in unfair power imbalances because they want to, and some people will participate to avoid being placed at the bottom of the pecking order.
People who get jealous tend to be insecure and to have feelings of shame as well. I also possess an analytical mind, therefore I am wise in managing the household and consider my self to be a savvy investor. I know I'm a good person with a good heart. If it still doesn't help, get help. The diamond he put on my finger stopped her pulse.
I can tell because right after I say something to one person, the next day everyone knows. He's overly sensitive to criticism. I was extremely hated by my classmates for two years and still I'm facing the same problem in my college now. In today's world, however, all ten attributes act as a force field. Overall, is she an insecure woman? Why are you letting someone make you feel inferior? If you feel that you're being unfairly judged for your positive qualities, consider going the extra mile to prove that you are more than a pretty face, and that your life is not as perfect as it seems. They should focus on their own situations and level of confidence, not hate on those who have done well for no good reason.
Discover what you do like about yourself and be confident in that. . I wanted to know what went wrong; I decided to ask that person directly, then that person suddenly talks about how many people hated me and why I changed. I don't agree with some of the advice in this article. Zee and I know each other almost ten years. I over-accentuated my problems and made myself extremely small and vulnerable so that women wouldn't find me too successful and strong.