Never actually been on a date. They are more likely to think abstractly and take risks. But the only way to have better opportunities in life is by trying hard to eliminate that shy side of yours. She turned out to be a former drug user and still occasionally smokes once in a while, she's an alcoholic who goes drinking and stuff at pubs and parties. Those two can have many other things in common. For those on this thread who are shy, but not letting that stop them, congratulations, you have taken the first step. If another guy tried to flirt with your girlfriend, would you have the courage to make a stand and put the other guy in place? Sometimes people can't overcome that feeling, But you can learn how to control it, and use it to your advantage.
This statistic, in itself, proves that shy people are more common than we think. The introverted men I know seem to prefer women who are also more introverted. On the other hand, I wish that I weren't so shy and that I was more outgoing and flirty. Sorry for typos my phone keyboard is annoying. Considering the tendency of power to corrupt, I think outgoing girls are more likely to control shy guys they get with. They like guys just as much as you like girls.
You and the many people on this forum ain't the only people in this wide world. It does look like I am not sticking by a girl sometimes though when I am rapid fire flirting with everyone in the beginning. I think it worked mainly because while that was her default reaction to being around other people back then, she still was a very social and interesting person once you got to know her and she was comfortable. As the saying goes, opposites attract. I found this article interesting.
It's better knowing than wondering for a long time. So if you are serious about committing to somebody, show that to them by giving them your full attention rather than your Facebook, Twitter, Friends, etc. Find out why guys like shy girls. When he asked about my drink, I followed him eagerly to the kitchen. With shy girls, I always wonder if what I said to them is appropriate or not, it's hard to tell when they don't wear their emotions on their sleeve.
Also it sounds like you have a chip on your shoulder. If you are shy and your girlfriend is outgoing, she might be best at handling many of the social aspects of your relationship -- which might be fine by you. For example, a shy guy might need to take some time out at a party and his outgoing partner needs to give him that space -- out of respect and understanding for his unique needs based on his personality. Sarcasm is a major turn on for me. Try not to be negative and please do give a signal that you are interested in her. With a shy woman, it's easier to interpret her intentions, but the downside is that when you have two shy people on a date, that date can get awkward and boring pretty fast. I dunno if I'm a fool for wasting my time and effort trying to court her when this looks like a nearly impossible gaol to achieve.
They usually have more approachable body language, are able to joke around and smile a lot, which in turn makes a shy guy more comfortable with opening up a bit. They like to protect their loved ones in some way or the other. My friends come to me when they don't feel like going out but instead want a chill night. Something I've been working on, but I'm curious. But I should have known, that I would be another victim of her sexuality. However, if an outgoing girl is looking for a guy like you, trust me, she will make sure she gets you.
One-on-one or with a small group of friends, I thrive. Sorry, just had to get that out of my system. In general people date because they see qualities in the other person that are a fit for them. Pity that a lot of outgoing and bubbly girls are often looking for someone more social than them, from what I've seen. So if I can fulfill my psychological needs, then so can you. And it applies to everything, not just women. Would be nice to date someone without having to deal with that shit.
You may prefer to stay home Saturday night and rent a movie while your boyfriend is dying to attend a party at a friend's house. Now I am shy when it comes to girls but for you to say its wrong and we should change because we are not confident enough or we seem to be little cowards or weak or not able to stand up for ourselves is quite insulting and judgmental of you. Unlike guys who are too busy yakking away, shy guys take time to reflect. Find out what girls want in a shy guy and what you can do to be the perfect guy for the girl you like. You might still feel lonely, but I think you will find yourself happier that you are trying to make yourself happy. If you want a quality woman, just try and meet us half way.