I just keep telling him, listen dude, you told me to be honest; would you rather I lie to you? What about discussing what has worked for him in the past? He will soon get back into the swing of things under his own steam. Posts made to these forums express the views and opinions of the author, and not the administrators, moderators, or editorial staff and hence eHealth Forum and its principals will accept no liabilities or responsibilities for the statements made. Print some posts and take it with some seriousness, to improve. If that's so, the best way to short-circuit those negative messages and allow one's self to get more easily turned on is to use the very effective tool of sexual fantasy. Ask him to share more of his memories of negative messages and then ask him to talk about his current attitudes about sex. Focus on your sex life as a unique experience, rather than fall back on preconceived notions or expectations of what should be occurring sexually. Do not delay seeking or disregard medical advice based on information written by any author on this site.
Have you asked him if there's anything you could do sexually that would make him feel more aroused and lead to orgasm — ways he would like to be touched, held, or talked to? This process involves problem-solving as a team. To get over this, your boyfriends needs to conquer his fear and anxiety. Myron, I agree ith you that maybe part of it that he used to do it himself. Can most men even last past 2 minutes? Always seek the advice of your medical doctor or other qualified health professional before starting any new treatment or making any changes to existing treatment. First, when it comes to sex, there's no such thing as normal.
So I am left feeling unsatisfied, almost 100% of the time. If you put your heads together, you might be able to work out a creative solution. Are you both new or fairly new to each other? You should support him and make him as comfortable as possible. Are you both or more so he very young? Does he have a lot experience? Other possible causes of delayed orgasm in men and women may include the use of drugs, prescription or otherwise. He may go on to: Pluck scrotum hairs a few at a time until that area is clean and constantly stimulated.
There is a chance that he has a problem with premature ejaculation. On the other hand, if he feels this is a problem, he may choose to see a sex therapist. Also, he needs to know that women don't usually orgasm from intercourse and he has to learn other ways to make you cum. Search the Internet together, in a non threatening way, make each expirment fun and non-threatening. As Tracy mentioned, I think the main point would be if happens often, since if compared to the typical sexual response cycle of a woman, well, he might be a bit off. Make him give you lots of oral before intercourse ever starts.
Makes the playing field a little more even. There is nothing you can take responsibility for here. If it continues discuss it with him and suggest that he put in a little more work on you and foreplay on you to get you to the same point before you or he touches him. Your satisfaction is just as important as his. Your boyfriend has probably never had much in the way of regular sex before and has not yet learned how to control himself.
Also, he prefers not have sex more than once a week! Reason 2 - Anxiety And The Feedback Loop Many guys go through the experience just described above but quickly get over it within a couple of weeks of having regular sex. You should have at least 2 good orgasms before allowing him to enter you. I love my husband and he loves me too. Discuss this problem with him out of bed in a very frank and open-minded manner. If he doesn't consider it a problem, I'm wondering why you consider it such.
He kept asking me what was wrong, what did he do wrong, did he do something that made me uncomfortable, did he not satisfy me, etc. It also clears up needs nicely, and if he's a keeper then you'll know. I'm wondering if your husband considers this a problem, or whether it's fine for him. We hadn't had sex in a while and so I was sort of antsy for some sexual contact, and then, as usual, it was disappointing. He does Not have any problem in getting excited or stay hard. However, certain criteria must be met.
He is a good lover, but the only issue that I get hurt when it takes so long. With respect to sexual life, we enjoy it, and I love to have sex with my husband. For you or the world, you'll be helping him to his higher potential. You'll get to a higher place, I promise you that. Men, especially younger men have very little control over their sexual duration.
Another thing that might help him is to get some accurate information about male sexuality. Sex is a two-way street and there's a lot of men only interested in their own satisfaction or incapable of controlling their ejaculation. But I wouldn't consider that if this is the first time its happened. After he comes 1st time, put on a rubber glove or condom on your finger. However, there are far fewer medically diagnosed and diagnosable cases. As a woman, I wish you all the happiness.