A person must learn what abuse is for themselves and decide that what they are experiencing fits the description. While all narcissists are likely to show certain behaviors, not all narcissists are the same. Thank you for validating that for me. Any drug that messes with your judgment could wreak havoc on your breakup. Re-read and think about what is happening to you when she runs interference.
Nothing will heal you except time. I am planning on leaving the state any day now, I need distance and reduced access to lick my wounds. The manipulators are equally effective in trapping their women. He did think about things and how it would effect me from time to time and worked to change those things. They will 'practice' leave and return more than once usually before they feel competent to leave permanently. The pain of being the other woman was so great and the darkness was so dark.
According to narcissistic personality expert, Dr. Neto Sosa This is such a great response. My narcissist husband turned my daughter against me. The attraction can wreak havoc. I also see the red flag in what you are saying. I have to let the walls come down and try new things.
I find that I think of the ex more when I am down and out, sick or just bored…. By this time my physical self was in overdrive, I became ill. They controlled me and my money. It is a relief to know that there are others out there. Tulipa Work on your self-esteem. But how do you explain to them? I admire everyone who is sticking to nc and going through the pain for the better longterm outcome.
My female narcissist partner was wrecking my health taunting me with cruel texts about pulling men in nightclubs , twisting round everything I said, and taking advantage of men although I am not 20 years older than her to worship her. After just two years a total shell of what I was. However the financial stresses of life make that a difficult choice. Help me, God, not to go back this time. However, every time you re-enter into you create even more questions and open ends.
One reason is because the married man lies about his status. Both options — to stay or leave — require attention, time, and self-awareness. And also, I think the relief is sort of like a drug fix. I left him with all the furniture, even down to the last towel. Many, at least initially, have a hard time staying away from a person they know has hurt them. Breaking habits is hard, and I am doing the work.
This is not an uncommon post-relationship dilemma. Of course, he conveniently left out any detail that would put him in a bad light. I feel slightly impatient and then it starts to make me feel maybe its just all me, am i the bad guy? Everytime I speak to him my idealization goes out the window because he reminds me of how he is still the same which is good for me and confirms why I am staying away. He said its ok, he will come home every after a month for 2 weeks until his business caught up, my husband never came back home now its a year. He fought the rage, but his diabetes and total dependence on pain medications and all made it very difficult. Am I just focussing on the negative? Taking your own advice will help you rebuild your self-esteem. The good we remember, the bad we forget.
My boys were screwing up and agAin i was supporting. My heart goes out to you and I wish I could help in some way. I know what you mean about being on egg shells. Thanks to the first lady who commented, your story gives me hope. If you keep getting hurt; if you know in your heart that the relationship is diminishing you but you still keep going back for more, it may be time for you to get into or to find the resources in your community that help women extricate themselves from a controlling or abusive relationship. I just could not accept I had made such a bad choice. This man has already helped cause the early death of His father with constant worry n bailing this person out of every imagine able situation n finally his father to die.