Councilors, support groups can help facilitate the process. Its the best one I've found, but not appropriate for some people. I use to be so kind and thoughtful when I was younger. Exercise, reading self help books and a healthy life style all help; you might also like to talk to a therapist who could back you up and give you a hand too. I needed so desperately to have some form of stability~Starving myself became my therapy of choice. I think once you go to one you will see the difference. In front others I am jolly, happy-go- lucky, smart and confident girl.
If it was left to the mind alone to remember it needed food and other essentials, it would likely forget to feed the body. People and their opinions really annoy me and I just want to get away, escape and be alone. Also, we are living in a foreign country due to his job. You fear losing control, looking foolish, being in trouble, or maybe even getting hurt. But what i do find helpful is prayer and reading some inspiring Christian books from people who have gone through that path.
Cortisol, the stress hormone, can lead to irritability as well as sleep and cognition problems. Like you, I love my children, love my husband, we have a lovely home, family nearby, pets we love, a business of our own. Since I can remember I have been this way but my mom never believed in mental illness and I think I have absorbed that quality. Never an apology or anything just says she can never forgive me. These require so much more explanation then I can give in even a lengthy article like this. People afflicted by anger know very well how it steals every ounce of happiness, making the goal of marital harmony feel completely out of reach.
He is mean and has no respect for me. Implementing consistent punishment is only one part of a behavioral therapy program; a parent must learn to use positive reinforcement when a child behaves himself. I just feel numb, numb to everything! I have had depression for over 30 years now. So tightly packed that it cannot. This can be particularly damaging and frightening for other people. Two of my direct relatives have committed suicide paternal grandfather, maternal great-grandfather and my maternal grandfather was diagnosed psychotic and spent many months of his life in a mental hospital.
The very first section is a how-to for gaining control over your mind, which will have the secondary affect of calming him down. Our son even got suspended from school for acting like his father towards a teacher. I felt so relieved to know that this was normal and I was just crying out for help. My life is a constant roller coaster. Hi Chocolate Lover, I have to be honest and say what drew me to your thread was your user name. I just care what happens to him.
Something my parents do is try to guilt trip me into apologizing. They believe that nobody understands them but their friends. Then you can find a way to help him understand your true motives. I am remarried but, he has cheated on me but I am totally dependent on him. Without appreciation or the respect they deserve. I mean some much needed alone time, and don't let yourself feel guilty about it.
Like I said I know I did things to escalate things so I see where I went wrong I just hope I make the change I need quickly. If you use but then you negate the apology. Now, he has so many friends who he spends time with at least once a week on his days off. I think that he is waiting for someone to stop his outbursts so he can argue with them about why he is so right and we are so wrong. Its good you admit these things, and especially good you are asking about yourself. This results in a vicious cycle. People may read this and think its unfair to put this on my boy.
Two years back my brother passed away and his wife and son are also living with us. I, fortunately, have a stronger will than most. I thought staying in the marriage for the kids to have a family was the right thing to do, now I'm riddled with guilt that I should have left years ago and they would have had exposure to a different dad and a maybe a happier mom. Where art ends, science begins, and where science ends, art begins. Though it's wrong, I just want to feel loved and have a happy, healthy family, even if with someone else.
When you are angry, you are angry with cause. Your life is on a path that you are unhappy with. He calls our 2 year old son an asshole. There is an underlying motivating force that controls much of our behavior which is universally built into our biology. My mother favored my brother my whole life. Regardless, I am feeling more in control.