My two younger bros in their mid 20s live at home with me too… I have a good full time job, but not enough to really make it well on my oown. The bad news is that I'm totally swamped with email and comments, and so I have had to take the hard decision not to answer comments here any more. I'm at the end of my tether, my brother was just the same as me and he committed suicide when he was 40! I still feel that he betrayed me, violated my trust in him, and let me down. That alone must leave you extremely frustrated. I am very friendly and have good understanding with most of the persons in my life still I find it very hard to deal with my parents while they are very simple and caring.
Is there something else going on that I need to get help for? So, now I feel like I am losing. I have had mental break downs on a daily basis. My husband is so unhappy and miserable that he takes it out on me. You also didn't mention how old the youngest is. I dont know why It started 2 week ago and I get irrated and sad and moody latley. I used to blame it on my job, family, income, friends etc.
It's also that I feel I have no real outlet anymore. Like you're not in control, the emotion is. I can't recommend this book highly enough. Thank you for the support and help! It's comforting to know that there are people out there who are having the same experience as I do. That being said let me unveil the number 1 reason for irritation, depression and frustration that is affecting the human race today.
You discussed these issues with him. I don't want to be this person, but I don't know how go about making it better. A female reader, , writes 12 July 2008 : Hay i know just what you mean, I've been with my partner for 7 and a half year's and he has just walked out on me and our 2 daughter's as he has had enough off my mood swing's and said we needed a break other wise i was going to lose him for good. I was the only one trying to work around his disorder, and the drama and depression that comes with it, he refused to acknowledge he even had it, and when I tried to talk to his family about it they got mad at me! I absolutely understand what you're saying. Good luck to you, and I'm here if you need to vent. I'm still battling these things but to solve some of them and to maybe help you, is to first off get some time for yourself. Our brains get a hedonic hit not from plain old rewards and good outcomes, but from rewards and outcomes that exceed our expectations.
Whereas recently I have been treating my loved ones badly too. Is it something that just occurred a few years ago or have you been like this all your life? I am so frustrated all the time that I find i don't want to leave my home. I'm very good at masking it though. I just recently ask for home health care for i'm not able to clean my apartment and do the grocery shopping, that was a huge step for me for i have been the back bone of my family. I am pushed around by everyone I know. Wow, I am so glad I found this thread. Another important one to consider is whether you have a hormone imbalance.
Negative talks, questions anything stressful, I get blood rush to my head and my heart give me a stabbing pain. I know I try not to let it show for my husbands sake sometimes. He was very grouchy and negative most of the time. A ton of germs pass through the halls of college dorms, so it could just be a little bug too. I've tried many psychotropic meds over the years for anxiety and depression. I get mad at little things that my kids and husband do that didn't bother me at all in the past. Grief is simply mourning the loss of something that was important to you.
I've been staying up really late doing school work, but I usually get my best work done at night. I'm really depressed most of the time, cause i'm unemployed and my friends are earning way more than me, they all have a life better than mine. So my first advice is step back, breathe and say to yourself, the situation is not bad. These are all skills you can easily learn. We all are humans and have our own weakness and strength. By putting Tip 4 into practice, you short-circuit implication strategies. He could do no wrong in my eyes and I was so grateful for all he did.
I wish other women would admit to how difficult staying home with their kids really is, there are soap operas and tlc chanel that show this unrealistic view of what mothers are and should be. I think once you go to one you will see the difference. That is a part of depression too. I am so glad to know that i am not alone. Reflect for a moment: just what, do you suspect, is this person getting from acting out? Something to watch out for this one is that you could be feeling powerless in one situation and it will cause you to react with anger at anyone who upsets you. All that probably accounts for my crappy attitude.
Grab a cup of coffee with friends, go for a walk or jog, read a book, or watch a television show. Needless to say, I don't have a big social circle. Then last year, we finally broke up and he got married. My job isnt getting enough hours money wise. Yet, I forgave him for being gentle and kind to me. Also, you will be introduced to effective measures on how to deal with these problems.