It might be better, in some cases, to wait and hide it until they've developed the cognitive skills necessary for weighing dominant vs. Most of the studies you read point out men begin to cheat after they have children. If you do not say anything, will you be able to live with yourself? May be he has been knowing all along and was not doing anything about it because he did not wish you to be heart broken. Mine were dealing with this for months before I knew for certain. She has snuck out the window of his place as well. Robyn Graham Cherrie fails to speak the truth.
My therapist, yes I have a therapist, no I am not on any medication. He came out and I told him not to drive home and I'll drive. It doesnt mean they love you any less. Allah is working with you and developing you. There is no more need for you to be haunted by that story, than there is need for you to intervene in their lives. She hasn't worked for 18 years, and there are certain financial situations that my family is in that doesn't allow her to get divorced just yet.
My dad was at work and I came home from a friend's house unexpectedly. As to which parent you approach, im no expert. Before confronting the parent, think about what you hope to achieve with a conversation. It seemed to haunt me and then one day when everything became known, I was the bad guy. Either way, you can't save their marriage just like you can't be judged for your father's actions. Then you need to sit and talk with your mom and ask her why she has been keeping secrets from you and tell her that its ok for her to tell you these things because shes in alot of pressure to and wants to make you happy even if it includes keeping secrets from you and tell her how it makes you unhap … py if you are that she didnt tell you and then ask if there could be no more secrets between you two which would boost your relationship and make it strong This is hard to answer directly.
If we can just see the world with spiritual eyes and understand that there is a constant battle between good and evil we can maybe understand a little bit how people who mean so much to us can turn around and treat us so cruelly. Your mom sounds miserable, too. Op will feel guilty to mom, and to himself because most likely it will end in divorce. Your parents may be engaging in some kind of power struggle, or they may have hurt each other deeply, or they may simply not know who they are or what they want and need in this world. It might be ultimate sign of disrespect in a marriage actually. Today, I went to the beach with my children.
Keep in mind that in confronting your dad, it is his behavior and not his person you are fighting against. He would say things like boo, baby, see you soon and she would reply with hearts and kissing faces. He will be more prepared for the next episode. My sister was too upset to keep it a secret and my mom deserved to know. It will be helpful to talk with a professional who has expertise in counseling about extramarital affairs, as they can offer insight that may not have occurred to you.
It is easy to overhear things and my kids always wanted to know so much about what was going on with our situation. Something important in your life happens: college graduation, marriage or a child. I always prefer to give people a chance to come clean in these type of situations. Even without talking to him directly, the materials you hold are enough to tell him there's more to them that you know. Not trying to lay a guilt trip just asking an honest question. You could express to them how you feel but should also tell them that you respect there decision whatever it may be.
Our job is to become as resilient as possible, and not let their problems and mistakes ruin our lives. The odds of this are infinitesimally small. I don't know if he actually ever did anything or not and I don't really want to. They were both really drunk and she was probably about 20 years younger than my dad. Try to remain somewhat neutral, as it is not your marriage. She will likely lay guilt on op for snooping. It started when my dad got some kind of promotion on his job and he earned lots of money.
I am sorry that you are witnessing all of this. We are talking 53 years ago, and it haunts me like it was this afternoon. However, I feel guilty for being angry because he is my dad, and it feels that I am dishonoring him with my anger. I think that I am just too transparent and if something like this was going on I could never hide the lie. If my mother was carrying on an extra marital affair, I would approach her and give her an ultimatum.